Losing our marbles…I meant morals Morals... everyone talks about them , but how many of us are truly trying to stick to what we have been brought up with as morally right? How many of us are taking the hard road? How many of us are taking the risk , in the name of morals? Probably a handful. Being a Muslim and an educator I believe that what is right is right and what is wrong is wrong. There is no grey area. I believe that what is okay for the goose is also okay for the gander. I believe that you should treat the janitor with the same respect that you treat the CEO. I believe that underhand and unfair decisions and dealings will catch up with you, maybe not now, but surely someday. I believe that we as adults need to teach our children that being an adult is not easy. That following what you strongly believe in being right is going to loose you friends and possibly turn strangers into foe, but we need to teach our children that it's okay... rather humality in what is right than pride in who is right. Rather the long, tideous road with many obstacles than the road with no morals and make believe no consequences. I stand by what I believe in and I cannot be bothered about how many "friends" I loose along the way or how many people hate me simply because I believed in my morals and my values. At the end of the day, we live to make a positive difference in the world and if we can't be true to ourselves, we morally deprived and so is everyone around us.

Playing with their future!

Teachers follow students through each pivotal stage of development. At six to eight hours a day, five days a week, you as a teacher are poised to become one of the most influential people in your students’ life. Much of what our students learn from their greatest teachers is not detailed on a syllabus but rather imparting some of life’s most important lessons like ; respect, social relationships and how to grow up into a reasonably responsible and well-rounded adult. A dictionary defines a teacher as a person who teaches but hardly does justice to a profession that reaches far beyond just conveying some knowledge or skill; for there are so many roles a teacher must fulfil. Conselor, entertainer, motivational leader, disciplinarian, comforter, accomplished mind-reader, a guardian who needs to be constantly aware, a mediator who must be unbiased and fair. By whatever means necessary, teachers find a way to to meet the needs of all their students, each and every day.

Their work does not end with the ring of a bell, for teaching is not a job it’s a calling as well… It really does sadden me that parents have no time to teach their very own kids these important life lessons,nevermind sit with homework(bare in mind that being harsh and truthful= a bitter reality). (but that’s another issue altogether). My runt is that teachers often argue that lessons such as manners and respect is the job of the parents but I’m of the opinion that it is just as much the job of the teacher,as you too play a crucial role in those learners lives or have you forgotten your purpose? Teaching is passion driven, it’s underlying drive is to mould holistic youth, not only to push through your jam packed syllabus(strike two).Unfortunately, as each day passes parents are getting less involved in teaching their children simple life lessons and teachers comfort themselves in believing that they have no role to play in this debacle. It is easier to ‘overlook’ lack of respect , discipline and avoid any type of confrontation or conflict in a schooling environment and claim

that: “It isn’t my child, isn’t my problem”. My question is, “Is it really that easy to live with a heavy conscience, in the long run?” , knowing you played a role in “that child” leading a life to abusing drugs or stealing or hurting his/her family and kids, simply because it was “easier” for you than dealing with the than ‘smaller issues’ in school that in turn lead to self-destruction and harmful behaviour around others, whilst under YOUR watchful eye???. We cry about the world being in crises yet we at the pinnacle of its turmoil , because we the teachers of OUR youth, OUR future, constantly choose the effort, smooth sailing way to ignore installation of values in our children. Life values that are more important than any academic lesson found within a textbook.

Living in a world of fire…

Its funny how times have changed. Back in the day, not so long ago, if a parent received a phone call from a teacher or the child was calling the parent from school; it was almost instantaneous that the child was upto no good.

Well friends, let me burst your bubble (especially if you in the education field or entering it) parents of today are quick to accuse the teachers of wronging the learner, of “victimisation” , of ‘why only my child, not somebody else’s” … Parents side with the children, accept their childs word over the teachers, scream, demand and humiliate teachers because their “angel” could not be capable of such sin.

At home your child is one person. At school another- influence, confidence, pressure from peers changes ones personality. A child is a combination of nature and nurture. The constant pressure to part take in annoying or frustrating an educator or else they labelled. The pressure of clowning around or suffering the consequences of brutal child to child emotional abuse. With all this environmental pressure, your child is pressured and accustomed to change to “fit in” or “blend”. It’s mortifying to think that parents are so oblivious to knowing who or what they child is when out of their glistering eyes. Unfortunately.

Now lately, more than ever, parents are siding with their kids (soaring their children on) “Yes, yes your teacher is wrong! I will be at school on Monday” – no further investigation? No facts or evidence? No common sense??? Just a childs word over his educator. Fast forward; Monday morning and you storm into school and accuse the teacher that they are wrong for disciplinary words exchanged, mind you not even “carried out”. Pointing your fingers at the man/woman who only wants the best for YOUR child? No decency to ask some questions first? You don’t want to interrogate the child , but you won’t think twice to do it to the teacher? Please dont get me wrong teachers do have shortcomings, but seriously your child is just a child- atleast be adult enough to ask before jumping to any conclusions and you having to walk out of the school with your tail between your legs.

Here’s a harsh reality check… parents who cover for their children are not doing themselves nor their children a great advantage, instead you lifting them so high that when they fall- it’s going to be a really really hard one! and in all reality they going to land right on you and break all those fingers that once pointed to the teacher who called YOU to help YOUR child.We living in a world of fire- so someone is bound to get burnt.

The need to fabricate

Should I upload this picture to instagram? Why do we upload our most personal things up on instagram? Is it to show the world that we are perfectly happy in the world we just made up in our own minds.  The world where we only have good hair days, or our eyebrows are on fleek , or perhaps we wearing the perfect outfit to outdo the next person. Why fabricate an unrealistic world and still open yourself up for negative comments, sarcastic remarks and allow yourself to be the talk of any social gathering…. ‘whoa! Did you see her latest updated pic? New guy on her arm…’ or  I seen her at the gym and she’s not her ‘instagram’ complexion’. We spend hours finding the best lighting,  striking poses, extraordinary lip postures,  and fanciful filters to make believe that we always this quintessential. Why do we do it?  Why do we upload every breath that we take? Why do we create this fantasy-like world of ourselves? We do it because we not content, if we were, we would have kept all the knowledge to ourselves. Why not be true to yourself and upload a picture of yourself when you have zits popping out on your forehead, or when you experiencing a stressful day and ain’t looking your very best. I’m not saying that we should focus on the pain, I’m just asking how honest are we,  because most of the time its a posed shot.

The best moments in life, the perfect days,  the genuine laughs and smiles and the most incredible and monumental times cannot be captured on an 8 megapixel, 4.7 inch, high resolution camera.  Be happy and honest with yourself and glee in those moments. And if it’s truly you, by all means- click and upload.

xoxo

twiddling thumbs…

“A teacher affects eternity; he can never tell where his influence stops.”
Henry B Adams

 I sit in bed, with a sudden urge to start writing. I twiddle my thumbs and bite the skin around my nails (#winterproblems). Recently I’v been doing some constructive thinking , and by constructive I simply mean the type where I actually think about stuff that matter, I currently hold two degrees: psychology and education. They do go hand in hand and personally I feel like every individual that teaches should have some fundamental knowledge into the psychology of the human mind, because if you cannot understand it- how can you educate to improve it or enhance it to reach its full potential. I am fairly new to the world of educating enchanting young minds. Within the time I have spent around them, I observed that their carefree minds and attitude is unfortunately a thing of “swag”. It’s now cool to fail or “glamorous” to be disobedient to those around you and its simply a “drag” to learn from textbooks because “when are you ever going to use it?”. It’s about their rights and therefore not caring about the exuberant lengths parents and caregivers go to maintain or provide these children with such great opportunities is no more a priority. As generations are passing through our hands and we are imparting knowledge to them, I believe that even more important than the textbook knowledge we share, the life lessons we pass on too them are vital , thus we can make them understand that education is not torture- but merely an opportunity to mould themselves into the adult they want to be. Encourage them to question things- to critically engage with the world, make the learning content in the syllabus accessible to them, on their own they will not endure such advanced thinking, but through our life lessons, stories  and experiences we can hopefully nudge them into being vivacious youth who will lead our future, so we can live in retreat knowing we have breed others who have a zest for life. If we leave children to continue with this current attitude to the world around them, we are leading the way to ultimate destruction.